What to Expect at a Funeral
We believe the most important gift you can offer a grieving family is your presence. Regardless of what you wear or say, paying your respects by attending the visitation or service expresses your concern for the family.
At the visitation, there is usually a register book present for guests. We suggest that you sign the book because a visitation can be a busy event, and it may be difficult for each family member to greet and remember each guest.
During the funeral, we encourage you to participate as you are comfortable. Listen to the words that are spoken, and join in congregational reading and singing if invited.
At the cemetery service, usually brief prayers and readings are offered by the clergy. This part of the service is outdoors, so it is a good idea to be prepared for the weather by bringing an umbrella, winter jacket, or whatever clothing is appropriate for the season.
If a meal is being offered by the family, this will be announced at the conclusion of the service. If an invitation to the meal is offered, please attend. The funeral dinner is an important time to share more memories and continue to gather as family and friends. Our staff will be present to provide directions to the meal whether it takes place at a restaurant, church hall, or other location.
It is kind to send flowers, gifts, or a memorial donation, but greeting the family and sincerely expressing your sympathy is perhaps the most meaningful way to reach out to those in grief.